just don't do what I have done. Spend a good 2 years redoing everything, I mean everything. Then spend the next 18 years neglecting everything, fishing, and now have to do lots of stuff over. Just hope if you do follow my lead that it takes 18 years for her to discover the house looks like hell. Luckily my wife is even busier than me as I found it looking like hell 4 years ago but I wasn't about to bring it to her attention. You can do a lot of good fishing in 18 years.
"A beach is a place where a man can feel he's the only soul in the world that's real"
Before or after you go stop at a supermarket that sells flowers. She will love them 5 dollar flowers. No vase! she is apt to throw it at you. And then even tho U will be tired from fishing, put a gleam in her eye.
I'll agree with BB,I too have 2 kids and re did my first home & it was a DUMP it took me ten years but I did it and was fishing when the wife & kids are sleeping
Do whatcha gotta do.