JF - T&Ps for everyone - wife, friends, etc. As best you can, and it's not easy, try to stay focused on positive stuff - it's hard but as said above, keep the faith. Our T&Ps to you all.
"It was the blackest night! There was no moon in sight! (You know the stars ain't shinnin cause the sky's too tight) "
Hang in there Joe. No need to feel superstitious.
None of this is your fault so don't feel guilty or that your to blame.
Best wishes to the Mrs., Jay and dar3.