Is it legal.......

[The Dad Fisherman]

Originally Posted by Flaptail

Any suggestions? He sucks.

Does he really suck....or are you having an issue that for years you were her Sage and now she is listening to another man in her life.

Trust me I'm not looking forward to dealing with this when my daughter gets older, but try and talk to the boyfriend.....civily and ask him if he can help you out and try and keep her mind on getting through college. try and work with them instead of against them.

and if he says no then introduce his forehead to the wall

[BrianS]

My sister has an ex-boyfriend who hasnt gotten the hint yet... (partially her fault - she likes to "fix" people)

The first night I met him, he seemed like a pretty rockin dude. He was trying to really chum up to me and part of the conversation was me saying to him he was already better than the last few boyfriends because he had a job...... My sister came up with me on the next beer run and said I had upset him because apparantley he was fired that very day.... FUNNY!... but he was still a nice guy so I gave him 3 months... He also seemed like he "got it" and wanted to work.

I took him fishing twice... The first time, it was just kinda scouting.. so I didnt care.... The second time... well right then and there it was pretty obvious to me it wasnt going happen again... He failed my fishing test big time.. I wanted to beat him with my boga and sell him to the cambodians at the stone bridge for tautog bait. Just way too immature.... but still he seemed to treat my sister right...

Then came my sisters 30th birthday...I asked him the simple question of what he got her.. He was basically living with her, was calling her his "wife" so I thought it was an honest question.. He got SO pissed... that he got in a fight with my sister about it and almost broke up... We paid for my sister to go to dinner.. She had to pay for him and didnt get her anything...

At about the 2.5 month point.. my sister started having some reservations about him... I hadnt said a word.. If she was happy it was her business... But she opened up the can of worms, so I definitely let her know what I thought.. Regardless of how the guy treated her, the guy wasnt working.. didnt want to work.. didnt want help finding work.. turned down almost a guaranteed thing at verizon.. etc... I told her it was time to move on

She did.. he cried.. he is a HUGE internet whiner.. I wish his myspace page was public... its really a hoot to see his whines...

Then he called me out.. basically said I was nosey and shouldnt put my nose where it didnt belong.. That he was nothing but respectful to my sister and I had no idea what was going on... Wow was he right... it seems between the hours he put into my mothers garden to kiss ass and the hours he spent not working.... He spent all the remaining time constantly trying to pressure my sister into doing some very naughty things...

So now I am not happy... He knows I am not happy but doesnt know I know the latest details...

So... maybe we can work something out here.... a little trade of solutions?

[eastendlu]

I'm in the same boat Flap you just have to weather the storm.

[Jimbo]

This post could have been mine and from what I read a few others. Daughter graduated high school just last week. Sunday my wife was waiting for her to come home from work to go out to central PA for orientation at a nice small school. Daughter shows up and says she isn't going away to college because she's staying home to be with her boyfriend and then leaves to go sit while he hands out ice cream. This after my wife bent over backwards to get her a decent financial aid package and some pretty good government loans in additionb to what we're also paying. Anyway, the bf isn't a bad kid, but has her wrapped around his little finger and I'm pretty sure pushing her on this. She's the first child and her mother and I spoiled her, so she's also used to getting her way, so that probably doesn't help. She was gung ho on the college from day one and now comes up with every imaginable excuse. As of today, she doesn't want to go, but is going to honor her committment for a year, anyway. She just casn't see the tremendous opportunity she's being given. My wife's popping her anxiety pills like Pez.

[nightfighter]

Originally Posted by eastendlu

I'm in the same boat Flap you just have to weather the storm.

Same crap with my 15 year old. Choices get consequences here in my house...but they are not always carried out at her mother's house. Even after she threw a party, and the house was subsequently robbed. (Ex's, not mine) She's in the middle of a two week stay at a camp in Maine right now. We're hoping she gets her "voice" back and uses the break to find herself, without the BF, school, and her girlfriends. (On a good day, high school girls are the worst creatures on the planet....) My first letter to her outlined how when she comes home, she and I are sitting down and deciding the course for the rest of the summer, which will include Sylvan Learning Center, to get her a jump on next year's studies. I did preface the letter by stating how lucky she was to have this opportunity (camp) and that I loved her and looked forward to her return.
Steve, you are blessed with the written word. Maybe try a letter to her?

[Tagger]

mother and father in law thought I was a looser.. that was 36 yrs. ago.. Old man was my best friend,,even fished the canal with me ,. mother in law always good to me and visa versa.. .. time will tell .. don't get an ulser ..

[Backbeach Jake]

My Sister had a boyfriend that her four brothers nicknamed "Weasel" . He didn't last long, we were on him like mental pitbulls. Never laid a hand on him, just messed with his head. "Got the quick lime, Bob?" " Yeah, where were you when it was time to load it Fred? " "Buying buckshot." " Pat, get that hole dug?" " No I got Jim to do it." " OH. hi Wease, how's it going? Look, I'm sorry but your motor bike hit a tree"....

[Swimmer]

Make sure when you hear the sirens that whoever is tuning him up stops. Misdmeanors are only arrestable when observed.

Take him "chumming"!